In coming up with a mission statement, it's good and easy to have one; yet, much more difficult to stick with it. In Part 1, "what makes you unique?," we address & answer that first, most vital question. It's the map that sets us on our journey. In Part 2, "what's your rally cry, your top priority?," we address & answer how to eliminate stress by focusing on one area (rally cry) in our lives we can work on (& achieve in 2-6 months), which will help us stick to our journey. Now, in Part 3, the final question remains.
Question #3: How do you talk about and use the answers to your questions?
It's one thing to know what makes you unique. It's also another to know one area to focus on to eliminate stress & lack of vision/focus. Yet, it's another thing to know how you are going to accomplish it. We could write a grandiose mission statements filled with our core values & strategic values. We could have our rally cry that sings in unison with our soul & mind, creating a Zen-like space, free of clutter & distraction.
Better yet, picture yourself 50 lbs overweight. You tell yourself, "I'm better than this. I deserve more for my life!" So, you go out and buy some exercise clothing, rid your house of the junk food and fill your fridge with clean, nutritious food. You tell yourself, "By the end of the year, I'm going to be one hot mama/dude!" You make the appointment with the gym and start your regime to better health.
After your first workout you think, "this is hard, I don't know if I can do this." You look in your fridge and wonder, "salad with chicken doesn't sound appetizing." Your body says, "OH.MY.GOSH. I didn't know there were muscles here," you're in pain.
You go the next day to stick with the plan, because you remember your long-term goal. Yet, by the second week, you sleep in...missing the gym. You begin to buy a couple more food items away from what you intended. You find yourself paying for a gym membership that isn't being used.
Question 3 helps us continue going to the gym, eating healthily without letting the food rot and the exercise clothes sit clean in the drawer. Here's how...
1. Find a time every week to evaluate.
Spend 10 minutes every week (preferably on the same day) going over your 'rally cry' and the defining objectives & standard objectives. Are you finding that your defining objectives might have been too vague (notice I redefined one of mine)? Or did you try to over achieve? Were the objectives too narrow that no one could fit through them? If so, you might need to tweak it a bit. If you find it hard doing this on your own, then maybe there is a trusted friend or spouse you could share your rally cry with and they can help you with accountability.
2. Keep it Visible
It's one thing to have your mission statement, rally cry, & objectives written out. It's another thing to have them in clear view to see everyday. Keep them posted for you to see and be reminded of who you are and where you are headed. Put them in a place you walk past every single day.
1. What is my top priority right now?
My Rallying Cry: “Creating a gentle spirit that listens.”
- Spend time in solitude every week (have scheduled internet times).
- Pray earnestly for the Spirit’s empowerment daily, begin with this each morning.
- Journal 3xs a week.
- Spend quality listening time with each family member everyday (start with five minutes).
Cultivate a heart that allows interruptions, mess…play with the girls, embracing this daily.
- Update: Go to bed by 10:00, in order to have a well rested body & spirit.
- Exercise & maintain health
- Home administration
- Girls & family fun (means our family of four)
- My Spiritual Life
2. What makes me unique?
I’ve been blessed with a sensitive spirit, which is moved into action by standing up for righteousness, especially for people. I value my relationship with Jesus and how he has imparted me with a storyteller’s heart and redeemed my story. Through this, I am called to encourage & empower my family & others to find their story and how to connect to others with it. I also value good, quality food and love creating nutritious & delicious food through cooking & baking. All of these have ignited a strong call to genuine hospitality within me.
3. How will I talk about and use the answers to this information?
I will spend time on Sunday afternoon evaluating how effective I have been in following the defining objectives. I will include Ben on this conversation for accountability. I will look over journal entries & track my sleep time as well for encouragement.
Where are you finding yourself among these questions? Where in your life is asking to be your rally cry? Which question seems the most discouraging or daunting? Add to the conversation to impart your unique perspective.
Part 1, 2, & 3 have been influenced & inspired by Patrick Lencioni's book The 3 Big Questions for a Frantic Family.A Year Ago: Mascarpone Chocolate Cheesecake