Day 17 :: ENFP the Champion & INFP the Healer
If you are just joining us on the 31 days of Myers-Briggs series, be sure to read about these empathetic & benevolent Idealists. Yesterday I wrote about the ENFJ & INFJ and today we learn about the more open-ended NFs.
Diplomatic Intellect & Diplomatic Roles
While the ENFJ (Teacher) & INFJ (Counselor) paired up as the Mentors within their Diplomatic Intellect role, the Champion & Healer are seen as the Advocates. They are probing their scenery for possibilities & prefer to have open-ended experiences. They also tend to give information; rather, than hand out directives. Advocating is literally "giving voice" to others views & opinions, beliefs & positions or causes. They are able to put words into action that others might not be able to. They are very cooperative in the way they advocate, by acting on others behalf. They are the ambassadors, activists, enthusiasts, supporters & use their skills to liberate & bring people together, not by using their activism as a means to pin people against one another.
ENFP Champion as Advocate: Champions are very vocal Advocates. If they go somewhere new, read a compelling news story, experience anything that shows justice awry, they will adopt themselves as being mouthpieces to enact change. To verbally advocate for the rights of those who do not have any or little to none. This could be anything from worldwide poverty to tending to the elderly within their community.
INFP Healer as Advocate: Healers seek to advocate for healed relationships. They act as go betweens, the preservers of relationships & advocating to bring about peace within strained relationships. They are the most reserved of the four NFs, and need to back away from the public sphere into their own private world to reflect & contemplate the mysteries of life, and to regain energy from the darkness of the world. They can be effective in the limelight when their ethical view of events thrusts them as have a direct sense of mission.
ENFP the Champion
The Champion (ENFP): It's interesting that ENFPs are said to be rare with only two or three per cent in the population; however, I know quite a few of them. And, I also have an ability to spot them out. If you're an ENFP & I don't know it & we begin talking, or I'm observing you in a group, I can identify you. ENFPs are loving, charismatic, people attractors, & fierce in their beliefs. They believe that nothing is done without significance (which they can tend to overanalyze as a result) or has a hidden meaning. They certainly don't want to miss out in experiencing this hidden meaning or significance either.
Their experiences in life are detrimental in the way they use themselves, which is primarily their voice to speak out or against or for what they know is right or wrong. They can make blanket statements rather easy without thinking of it's consequence. But, they do this not out of spite or to hurt someone, but because they feel in their gut that what is right is right and what is wrong is wrong.
I like what Keirsey says of them,
"This strong drive to speak out on social events can make these Champions tireless in conversing with others, like fountains that bubble and splash, spilling over their own words to get it all out."
Champions have this knack & enthusiasm above all types to inspire others to join their cause. They have a magnetic personality that makes people to want to be around them. Part of this enthusiasm is due towards ENFPs fulfillment over the dramatic & emotional experience, which they find essential for full life. They can also become bored rather easily, as their emotions & sense of novelty is so broad. They don't want to live through the same experience twice, but have each experience to be new & fresh.
They are fiercely independent, repudiating any subordination in themselves or to others. Unfortunately for them, people look to them as leaders of the cause & want to be under subordination to them as they look for wisdom & insight. This dependency can weigh on ENFPs, because they don't want to do anything simply out of obligation. One of the main reasons for this is because they strongly value & strive a spontaneous personal authenticity, which they communicate non-verbally. This however, attracts people towards them as well. Too often, Champions fall short in this quest for authenticity & they quickly become aware of it. It's as if they look into the proverbial mirror & see their unauthenticity spewing on them. This leads them to beat themselves up, or belittle in a sense for the slightest self-conscious role-playing.
They are also the most astute at observing their environment. Their "P" isn't necessarily about being messy or disorganized, but partly due to them probing the people around them to see what lies beneath. They are fully aware that life has good & evil and it's "pregnant with possibilites" for such; hence, they are the most observant & skilled at picking this up in others. They are actually hypersensitive to it, which can cause for muscle tension.
They have phenomenal intuitive powers & often find themselves trying to figure out what is going on inside others. They read their hidden motives or give special meaning to words or actions. These interpretations can be accurate; yet, it can also be very negative as it introduces something toxic into the relationship when they project false ideals on someone in authority over them. They see what they want to see in their insight and make serious mistakes as a result.
Although they make occasional misinterpretations, they are congenial, warm, skilled in handling people, fun to be around & very likeable. Their public role tends to be well developed & their capacity for spontaneity & the dramatic. They are very optimisitc in their outlook, and surprised when events don't turn out as such. They have a big imagination & their need to be given a job with more open-endedness allows for them to thrive. Routinization can stifle these bubbly Advocates, even if they enjoy the job at first. They enjoy the creative process of creating a project or gathering people together, but don't like the follow through & details that comes with it.
As mates they are appealing, sympathetic & non-conformists. And since they need to seek out new avenues for inspirations, their mates should prepare for surprises. Their mates become accustomed to not nail down the first thing that comes out of their mouth, but to see where it goes. As parents, they are devoted, but somewhat unpredictable in handling situations. They shift between role of friend in need to stern authority figure. They also tend to voice strong opinions on discipline, but not willing to enforce it. They are creative parents who provide their children with fun experiences.
INFP the Healer
The Healer (INFP): One thing I find interesting about the introverted types (and it especially seems to be true of the Healer over all of them) is how they are harder to describe. The information on them seems to be scarce. In fact, the Healer is one of the lowest percentages of all the types. Plus, what they feel is inward & with their "P" in how they organize, it makes them a little less predictable. Here's the little I do know of this rare diamond.
They are passionate & love fiercely. They advocate for healing among individuals. They want to help restore unity. Remember how all Idealists value harmony, well these Healers calming & tranquil ability help aid, or bring about this harmony to others. But, here's the other side of the coin to these deep feelers, they are not sensitive like ISFPs are. Rather, they feel just as deeply as the other NFs, but it's about how much they care for their loved ones & themselves. Their capacity to care is not found in any other type, which is why they can also hurt more easily & want to bring about peace & resolution.
They have a deeper sense of idealism in them than of the other NFs. In fact, it's their idealism derived from their strong sense of morality, which makes them believe that the world is an ethical, honorable place. Their idealism is connected with their ability to be self-sacrificing for someone or something they believe in. This idealism also leaves them feeling disconnected & alone in the world.
Healers can often seek unity within themselves, and between themselves & others, because they feel alienated. This often is due to their unhappy childhood. They live in a fantasy-filled childhood, which depending on their parent, most often is looked down upon. INFPs can feel like the "ugly duckling" of the family as they live within themselves. Often when paired up against siblings, parents can too often see they lack sociability, concrete industriousness, and being down to earth. Other types might be able to shrug off parental expectations, but Healers want to please their parents & siblings, but don't know quite how to do it. As I read about the Healer, I often wonder if our oldest is such. She carries these traits about her & I ask how I can parent my girls according to their unique design, not from a book (more on this later in the week).
When I study some of the mystics, I think of Healers. They believe in good & evil and can somewhat become fascinated with it all. They believe their is evil in them & they need to work it out. They wrestle with this good & evil, sacred & profane. But they are drawn toward purity & seek to cleanse themselves of the sin. Some INFPs seldom detect this inner turmoil.
When they make decisions, or evaluate things, they prefer to follow their intuition over logic. Impressions lay deeply with the Healers. They have a gift at interpreting symbols, as well as creating them. They are more black & white in their decisions & thoughts, and less grey.
They are adaptable, welcome new ideas & information and very aware of others feelings & their feelings. They relate well to most people. They don't like phone interruptions & work well alone. They are patient with complex situations, but impatient with routine details. They should steer away from business in terms of careers. They can apply themselves scholastically, and fare better in college than in high school. They demonstrate a remarkable ability with language, like the other NFs.
They are willing to sacrifice self for the sake of a calling, or loved ones. As mates, they are deeply committed & loyal. If they begin to become dissatisfied, they quickly realize that the other pasture merely appears more green. They are sensitive to the feelings of their mate & enjoy them, even though they have difficulty expressing interest and affection openly. INFPs cling to their dreams & find it difficult to let go of their idealized notion of life. They walk as though tomorrow will come crashing down, so they are on their guard to keep watch for the present. Although soft-spoken, they are fiercely protective of their home (spouse & children). They don't rock the boat as parents, unless their child has violated a value system.