Have you ever noticed how you look through those rose-colored glasses at other people's lives and think, "I can't possibly do everything that person does? They must be 'Superhuman!'" The thing is, when you boil it down, those glasses you're looking through are a facade. Whether you are looking through rose-colored glasses at someone else or yourself, it's dangerous.
When it comes to hospitality, genuine, life-breathing hospitality. I think it's absolutely necessary to know who YOU are. Take off the glasses and look at your strengths & your weaknesses. Don't try to be Cinderella's step sisters shoving & stuffing your feet into shoes 5x's too big or small. Wear the ones that fit comfortably, regardless if the pair you really want are a bit tight--it's not worth it.
I have been suffering from anxiety, which reared its ugly head last week. I'm not exactly sure why it came up and it's not gone completely. It has given me a greater insight into mental & emotional discrepancies, along with a greater capacity to extend grace. Not only grace for others, but for myself. I've begun to see more of who I am, what I'm capable of and what I need to lay aside. We're only given one life and to try to be someone other than who God designed us to be is criminal.
There are those of us who have the natural ability to engage in conversation, know what questions to ask and how to put people at ease. If you're not this person, the notion of being hospitable seems scary & daunting. Some people have a big home, which lends itself for natural hosting possibilities. I think when we allow all the shortcomings limit our ability to extend evangitality, then we get sidetracked from our wonderful, glorious gifts, talents & strengths.
During the giveaway I asked what you would like to see here on Evangitality. There were some great ideas & thoughts, but as I began thinking about them what kept coming back is what I believe to be the most fundamental...KNOW WHO YOU ARE before all else. We can go through life wearing shoes that aren't our own, fulfilling our identity with various roles (student, teacher, a professional, parent, child, spouse). All the while we neglect to embrace who God designed us to be.
During one of my weakest moments last week I was listening to the Message translation of Psalm 2. I could barely hear anything as I was running on the treadmill, but these were the words I heard:
Let me tell you what God said next.
He said, "You're my son (daughter),
And today is your birthday.
What do you want? Name it:
I began weeping big tears. In the midst of utter brokenness and feeling of abandonment, in the pit is when I heard God the loudest. He again was reminding me that my worth in life is nothing based on my talents & merit. He made me and delights in me. It's like the first time we laid eyes upon our daughters--they were a glimpse of heaven.
So I encourage you to take off the rose-colored glasses and look around at your life's scenery. Rather than look at what you don't have or how you've failed in life. Know who you are and embrace it. Wear the shoes that fit. Don't try to be someone you're not. When I think of my girls growing up, I want to ensure they don't feel like we are comparing them to one another. Our prayer is that we would love them the way God designed them to be and they would blossom into their own person. When you begin to love who you are and know who you are, you will be more free to accept grace & extend grace. And that, is fundamental in extending hospitality (or evangitality as I call it).
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